Many People Are Living Their Fears Instead of Their Dreams

Too many people today are not living their dreams because they are living their fears.

The twenty-four hour news cycle is continuously filling our living rooms with negative news stories, often times blown up out of proportion and filled with half truths.

As a result, people are continuously living in fear of what may happen instead of accomplishing something positive in their lives.

People are in constant fear of what may or may not happen.

In many instances, the same kind of events we are see occurring around the world have been happening for hundreds of years. The only difference is, we hear about them instantly instead of as in the past, when we often never were informed of them because of the distances involved.

Years ago, if we lived on the east coast of the United States, we never heard about what was going on in California, unless it was a total disaster such as an earthquake, and then it may have been days before the news reached us.

Today, the news reaches us instantly and the main stream media does it's best to politicize it. It is to their advantage to do this because it increases their ratings and sells advertising.

We need to start living our lives again, the politicians will fight it out and eventually devour themselves and those around them. In reality, besides writing our congressman, who may or may not even listen to us, the only way to effect change in our country is to make our voices heard at the ballot box.

We need to once in start living our dreams, in America, we are in control of our lives and our destiny, unlike most other places in the world.

We have lost the spiritual values that were instilled in our country at the beginning.

Study what the founders and heroes of the American Revolution faced. many times they faced death or serious injury, but they survived and as a result, created the greatest country the world has ever know.

Many times the only positive in their lives was their faith.

By controlling our destiny and life, we can create the kind of reality we all strive for.

By being responsible for our own life, being independent and as self sufficient as we can, not relying on government to run our life, we will create the type of country our founders had in mind.

We do create our future, and when we do, the negativity and distention in life has no one to latch onto and will disappear into the sunset.

Once we accomplish that, anything is possible.

Let us go forth, have faith in something larger than ourselves, by accomplishing this small feat, we can accomplish much.

I have traversed the globe in search of truth, my truth, during which time I have had an opportunity to study with Aborigine elders, native American Indians, and some of the world's finest intuitives. All of this has lead me to better understand our world and all things therein contained.

I have created a blog: [http://www.thefloridahoosier.com]. And a website to share some of my adventures and knowledge as I see it.

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I have written several books and am available for book signings and speaking engagements.

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What Should My Vision Board Have on It?

Visual memory is indeed the greatest asset man can have. One might forget what he has read or been told, but will never forget what he has seen.

A vision board works as an effective, practical aid on your path to success in this very regard. However, if you thought that a vision board is just another version of a notice board, you need to think again!

Well, a vision board is a physical manifestation of what you want in life. It is actually akin to translating all your ambitions, goals, fears and apprehensions on to a physical platform. The key purpose of this exercise is to keep you focused on your track and help avoid any distractions therein.

For this purpose, we list down a quick checklist of what all your vision board should ideally carry for it to fully solve its purpose.

1. Specific goals and targets

Any goal you list on your board needs to be specific its timeline and requirements. Vague goals never lead to effective results.

2. Recent setbacks and reasons

Though negativity is harmful, yet it always helps to learn from your mistakes and errors of the past. A vision board should ideally help you to keep an eye on your weaknesses so that you do not lose out because of them again.

3. Key tools and supports systems

As you face your daily struggles of life, it is comforting to have a sight of your support system and comfort zones. List down what all makes you feel comfortable and motivated enough to stay on your track. This will give you strength and solace in times of hardships and will help you move on.

A vision board can be a highly effective tool if one makes an earnest effort to bring out the best from it, with the strongest of focus and will power.

Alicia Holland, EdD, also known as AdvisorAlise, is an Intuitive Life Coach who has been having prophetic dreams since she was 7. She works with people of all walks of life through her coaching at the 501c(3) Not for Profit, Alise Spiritual Healing & Wellness Center. Alise teaches both physical and online vision board workshops. To sign up for one of her workshops, please visit http://alisehealingcenter.com/.

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Why Do I Feel So Stuck In Life?

Life happens to all of us! We look up and so much time has gone by and we realize that "this is not what I planned for my life". "This is definitely not where I thought I would be at this point in my life!" Disappointment will often set in and then discouragement and distractions begin to cause us to feel as though we are stuck in our current stage of life as we appear to have lost sight of our dreams and goals. This is one of the statements posted on most of our marketing materials and website. It is from a conversation that took place a few years ago with someone that shared their heart with us as they attempted to make sense of their life.

Well, I hope that I can help you as you are trying to understand why you are where you are currently. I can assure you that it is never too late to make a course correction in your life; it may not appear to be easy and I am not promising that it will be easy but, it will certainly be worth the effort. Shall we begin?

Why Do I Feel So Stuck In Life? Where Did The Bread Crumbs Go?

For some of us our life seemed to be so clear; we were going to graduate from high school, go to college and land that dream job! Some of us planned on having the "American Dream" in the sense that, we would graduate from college, have a higher than average paying job, buy that dream house that you always wanted and have your three point five kids and a dog, cat, maybe a goldfish or a bird even; I don't know but you had a plan is the point.

For some; your dream was centered on becoming that independent person that lived by their own rules as they blazed through life living the kind of life that others would envy. Then there are those who were going to change the world! Fix those things that you saw as broken; you were going to be the change agent for social injustice; you were going to fix what you saw as a broken education system, or bring accountability to government-local, state or federal. You planned on revolutionizing the entertainment, sports, arts, medical, and literary fields.

So, here we are. When we turn around and look back at our lives we can't help but wonder "where did the time go?" We often evaluate our lives based on where we are currently and where we wanted to be at this stage of our lives. But we had a plan! We had this thing all figured out, what happened? What happen to me? This is not how I imagined my life would be. And then disappointment begins to set in followed by discouragement as we survey our life choices and start to feel stuck as we realize that we lost sight of our dreams and goals. There are a few of us who may feel like they gave up on their dreams or compromised their dreams for lesser endeavors.

Resentment soon creeps in and we are invited to play the "Blame Game" which can be a very nasty and destructive game. That blame game is a hot mess! When we reach this point in our lives; we can't figure out what happened to our well thought out plan? We begin to have these internal conversations that tend to excuse our lack of perceived success and focus on how other people have failed to help us succeed. Those internal conversations can be very condemning and cause us to take on a defeated perspective-meaning that we (you and I) are the problem due to some undetermined defect in the deepest core of who we are. Some of us even wrote our plan out and for those "A-type" people; you may have included charts and graphs. Keep reading, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it is not a train.

Why Do I Feel So Stuck In Life? What has happened To Me?

Like I stated at the beginning of this post; "life happens to us all." So, now we are at a place where some of us have started to have regrets. Many people who reach this stage in the process have resigned to just sticking with what they are doing now because it is too late start something new. They have come to the conclusion that it is too late to chase after their lost dreams, "dreams are for kids" they often think as they continue to live in quiet desperation hoping things will change.

I was told a very powerful and thought provoking story earlier this year as I volunteered to help with a 5k run to help raise money to provide clean, drinkable water for a Massai tribe in Narok, Kenya. I was told from a very reliable source that the people of that particular village have developed a way of thinking that is a direct result of the poor quality of water in their area.

Whenever a baby is born it is not given a name; they will not waste a name on the child until they are absolutely positive that the baby will live. In that village, when a person is given a family name, that name is permanent- that means that when that person dies, no one can say that name anymore. So, they will not waste a name until they know that life will continue.

Many of you are a lot like that African village. You have seen how so many of your dreams and plans start out good only to fail. Maybe you have experienced that not one single thing that you have attempted to do ever made it off the ground. Some have had their dreams shot down, tore down, and stomped into oblivion as soon as you worked up the courage to share it with someone. There are others who experienced unimaginable and unspeakable things done to them. Survivors of domestic abuse, there are people who have overcome substance abuse or seemingly debilitating injuries and illnesses.

You do not dare to dream again, that is the last thing on your mind right now. You are just trying to find some sense of normalcy. You dare not waste a name on anymore dreams; you will not give it a name because you cannot bear to see one more thing fail in your life! But, even as you are reading this you can feel something stirring deep inside of you. You can try to ignore it, you can try to push that feeling down into the recesses of your inner being but, it keeps struggling to break out. It is almost as if it is screaming at the top of its lungs to be acknowledged!

We make attempts to retrace our steps eager to find the exact moment when things went wrong. We hope that somehow we can pinpoint that exact instant and by some means reset our lives and everything will be okay. It doesn't work like that unfortunately; but there are some things that we can do that have the ability to change the trajectory of our lives.

Why Do I Feel So Stuck In Life? Change Can Come.

In my line of work you can find so many examples of what is commonly referred to as stages of change models. These models simply chart the various processes or stages one takes when making changes in their lives. This is a widely used tool when dealing with addictions. As we go through this process at a brisk pace, I hope that you can begin to see that there's still time and opportunities to see your dreams come to fruition.

1. This is when you're not thinking about making changes in your life. This is where impairment has taken place for whatever reason and you have rejected the notion of even needing to change things in your life. Not a good place to be in.
2. This is the place where most of you reading this are right now at this moment. You're tired of being in that place of impairment or hurt; you're serious about the need for you to start making some positive changes in your life.
3. Now you're at the place in our life when you want to get the heck outta your rut, so you start looking for strategies and people to help you to leave your place of hurt, that place of being stuck (impairment).
4. Yeah baby! This is the place where you start to implement those things that are necessary to bring about desired changes in your life and you begin to experience movement. You are no longer stuck!
5. Hey! Now we're moving on up like "George and Wheezy! This is where you are achieving most of the goals that you have set and doing so with very little assistance. You have left your place of impairment and you're looking good!

Now, there's something that is very important to that I need you to remember; there's another stage that some don't address and I get why but, I feel that you need to read what I'm about to write. There will be times when you may find yourself back at the place of impairment. Do not panic, stop all negative internal conversations and go straight back to using the strategies that you have learned to becoming unstuck and examine how you lost focus so that you're aware of that particular pitfall if and when it shows up again. I am a firm believer in the idea that you can use failure as a tool, a learning opportunity if you view failure appropriately.

Failure, even if you are the reason for your perceived failure can become a teachable moment if you look at the situation properly. When you choose to view failure as a learning opportunity, you are actually continuing your process of change which in turn keeps you from feeling like you're stuck. I hope this helps you in your journey towards becoming unstuck.

Disappointment, discouragement and distractions can cause us to become stuck in life as we lose sight of our dreams and goals. For more information, please visit http://dreamagainrestorativeprograms.org/

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You Are Always at Choice - No Matter What It Looks Like

Over the years I've had more and I've had less.

I've had extreme highs and deep lows. Along with many ups, downs, bends, twists and turns. My life often felt as if I was on a large roller coaster in the middle of an amusement park wondering when this crazy ride would ever end.

As if someone else was in charge of the off button and that someone was not me. All was a blur as I was tossed about, out of control, dizzy, scared, and anxious.

Of all the rides in this amusement park called life, had I really picked this one?

Hadn't I always been afraid of roller coasters? Couldn't I have picked another safer ride?

So, what was I doing on this one? And, how would I get off?

Life is made up of many choices!

Some made consciously, and some not. Yet, as I look back on my life here on planet Earth, I see where many choices that I made brought me to my life as it is today.

It reminds me of the year I turned ten, my parents decided to pack up our lives in Wisconsin and move to California. Almost everything was sold, including our home in West Allis, leaving only a few items that were shipped via the mail to my paternal grandmother.

Left behind was my best friend, my bedroom on the second floor tucked away from the rest of the house, and the big, sprawling backyard with the huge weeping willow tree and the much used swing that I could soar high in the air - confident and assured.

Overnight, all that changed. Only a long, tedious car ride across the U.S. loomed ahead with endless stretches of blacktop and windy roads to endure.

The sight-seeing that my parents so loved, I did not. The hours spent in the car, were endless and too close for my much needed personal space and comfort.

I felt a sense of dread with all the unknown that stretched ahead.

If only I had known back then what took me until much later in life to comprehend. That I was an introvert and what I experienced and felt were the common emotions and reactions of an introvert.

Something that I thought was a fatal flaw in my personality. A flaw that often left me feeling ashamed and distraught.

Over the years I would wonder what was wrong with me? Why did I not jump in with glee and enjoy the experience? What made me hold back, withdraw, and be unsure?

Like the huge, rickety roller coaster on the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk that everyone was so excited to ride, even my much younger brother who hopped right on with no fear - but not me.

So many emotions battled within me.

Wasn't it scary enough to be in a state in which I did not feel I belonged? Made fun of in school for my mode of dress, my tall lanky body, and my Wisconsin accent. And, now, it seems, I am expected to get on that monstrosity and call it fun?

NO THANK YOU!

This is how life unfolded for me. The hesitation to dive in. The long moments of assessment before I would participate. The cautiousness that always came before the enthusiasm or acceptance of what lay before me.

I would stand on the sidelines and watch. I would assess the safety of the environment, person, place, or thing before I would enter. Did I wish to make the effort to join in or would I just let it flow past without me?

What I have learned over my lifetime is that we all have choices and we come to decide which ones are a yes and which ones are a no for ourselves. No one else can successfully make those choices for us.

No one can assure us it is safe, fun, or what we are meant to experience, No one can say which is the right path, course of action, and which is not, except ourselves.

Life takes us on many rides. Some scary. Some enjoyable. Some we swear we never signed up for.

Yet, in every instance we are at choice.

Not always at choice whether to move or not, as with my 10-year old self. But, how we perceive it. How we remember it. How it will mold and form us.

For me, I have come to embrace and accept that aspect of me which hesitates, steps back, and assesses before I jump in. I know this is the way I "play" in life. Have I ever hesitated too long? Indeed, I have. And yet, even in this, the outcome was what I was meant to experience.

I look back on the journey my parents took us upon when we left everything we knew behind. What it took for them to give up the life they knew, for the one they did not. It took tremendous bravery and courage.

They forged ahead with the determination to make our lives better.

No matter what it looked like to others. They made a choice and off we went to a new land of opportunity, healthy living, and a lifestyle dramatically different than the one we left behind.

Taking along this introvert, often kicking and screaming, yet it is a journey I do not regret.

Your money-life does thrive in clear, open, tidy spaces. Yet, do you find you don't have any of those?

Maybe it's time for you to step back and assess the situation -- determine how you can free up space? After all, don't you deserve to have a lush, green money-life? No need to fret about money and no need to spend it needlessly on stuff that you do not use.

Don't know how to do that?

Going it alone can be scary.
It begins with simply asking for help.
So, Let's talk

Email me at Joan@joansilva.com to learn more.

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Align Your Body to Align Your Mind

Meditation involves being still and quiet, both in your body and mind. The problem with a still body and a quiet mind is that it draws your attention to any discomfort. If you plan to meditate for long periods, you need to get your body comfortable.

Then again, maybe you don't.

Discomfort has its place. It can keep you awake and focused. It can drive out other distractions.

But, and I may be going out on a limb here...

I assume that if you want more discomfort, that's easy to arrange. If you want to change something, it'll probably be to decrease discomfort.

And with that not-so-controversial assumption in our minds, let's talk about posture and meditation.

Firstly, it's a myth that you need to sit cross-legged. You can sit however you like. In fact, you don't even have to sit. I usually meditate while sitting in an office chair. I've done it lying down and standing up.

A few times, I've meditated while walking around. I find self-hypnosis works better - I can use the ever-changing scenery and the sensation of walking to drive the experience. For other people, mostly those who are really good at shutting down their inner dialogue, they meditate while walking with no problems.

So do whatever you need to. If doing yoga keeps you calm and focused, do that. If that sounds terrible, don't worry about it.

Secondly, sitting upright is not necessary natural. Our ancestors walked most of each day for most of their lives. If you're not comfortable with it... well, neither were they.

But if sitting still appeals to you, then here's how to do it right.

Your ears, shoulders and pelvis should form a straight line. If you have a mirror handy, use it. If not, don't worry. There's a better way to measure it than eyeballing your reflection.

The first thing to check is to see if there's any tension in your body. Focus especially on your pelvis and lower back. If you are holding the posture using tension, then you're not really holding it. The goal is to remain relaxed throughout.

Then work your way up your core. Are your stomach and back muscles relaxed? If not, release any tension and adjust your position as needed.

Check your pelvis again to make sure the tension hasn't moved.

Do this again with your shoulders. Release any tension and move them into a stable alignment.

Finally, check your head and neck.

This exercise takes practice. If you need a month or two to get it right, take a month or two. It's time well spent.

Or just lie down to meditate.

And if you want to learn more about how to use self-hypnosis - whether you're lying down, sitting up or walking - then click the link below. You can learn to explore your own inner reality even as you navigate the outer one.

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The Giver and The Taker

The topic is not only intriguing but also interesting too. Both the giver and taker are sincere and truthful within the sanctity of their existential parameters. What counts is the effect of both persons' action and reaction in their dispositions and relationship with others. It could be business, societal and cultural dealings affecting individually and collectively. The giver is more concerned about others and their success. He keeps his own interest secondary and becomes extrovert in establishing a lasting friendship. Whereas, the taker adopts clarity of his mind and implements the plans which suit his main criteria. He prefers challenges and fresh inputs from close associates with whom he is in partnership.

Analyzing the modus operandi of both the giver and the taker it becomes crystal clear that the former's efforts will yield dividends in the long run. Nonetheless, the taker reaps his booty rather quickly. A word of caution for taker; it is unsafe in the long run and also the fruits may not be as per his expectation. Well, it is not the rule of thumb, even though it has its own sanctity within the meaning and concept. It also gets influenced by the environments and changing scenario yet again in a limited sense. This is the drawback when returns, in any form from any disposition, are linked to short-term benefits and profits.

A common concept, in general, is to exert caution and do not reveal your trade and practices secrets publicly. How far this is true is arguable and not substantiated, broadly speaking. However, a cautionary approach is always welcome to avoid confusion among the less informed workforce. The mindset of a giver wholeheartedly wants to share his experience with others. He transforms knowledge down the line to naïve workforce thereby giving birth to new openings in many meaningful ventures. These trivial yet powerful units flourish and benefits are shared among the workforce, in a broader sense. He earns a goodwill among the top hierarchy besides gaining confidence and a lasting relationship with the work force.

Ruminating over these two simple words, "Giver and Taker," we may take detours and look into the aspect of charity. Although it is quite relevant to this topic, yet it is independent of its application. It is said that you impart when you do not sustain; you give fistful and get bucketful in return. It reminded me when as a child while I was in school; I memorized a saying, "Charity for all, malice towards none." A very profound saying which will certainly catapult your ideas and streamline in a direction of being human and humility.

The important leaf you take out of a philosophy of giver and taker is their concept, clarity of mind and judicious execution. At the outset, the concept is common for the two persons in its first stages. It then takes a detour after when clarity of mind gets refocused by external influence. This the point where execution is impacted by good or bad depending on the situation and motive and intentions of concerned people.

On the contrary, when the giver executes his plans with the clarity of mind concept, then he remained steadfast and walk along the path of the well-being of others. Both the persons and their modus operandi reveal the results; it heavily leans in favor of the giver. He not only succeeds in achieving positive results in his favor but also laurels and respect from the one who is helped by him. In most of the situations, the taker meets the end in a distasteful and disrespectful manner. If often leads to criminal proceedings and end in the disaster.

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Are Your Sales Results Not Living Up To Your Expectations? There Are Five Basic Reasons

There are many reasons why sales effort, a lot of time, allocation of many resources, planning and so much more can still lead to slow and even poor sales results. Having been observing and teaching sales strategies and practices around the world for over thirty-five years and witnessing numerous stupid as well as genius tactics used by individuals and organizations I believe there are five basic reasons why sales decline or are in a slump regardless of the economy, industry, consumer desires, and competitive philosophies, etc.

Many sales trainers and sales experts might suggest that it's just poor execution of Sales 101 - prospecting skills, poor presentation skills or the inability to effectively disarm objections and close sales. Although all of these traditional sales methodologies are important, I believe that even if you have all of these and lack the following five you will never achieve sustained increased sales results and income. I'll keep this simple.

Here are the five reasons -

-A lack of consistent execution of a proven process.
-Reliance on a single marketing approach.
-Poor product/service messaging.
-Over or underuse of specific communication techniques.
-A lack of execution integrity.

-A lack of consistent execution of a proven process.

To achieve sustained and lasting success a process is required. It doesn't matter if it's cooking in the kitchen, operating in the hospital or building on a construction site. Wherever you see success I will guarantee there is a process that is consistently being followed to ensure positive results.

The sales process is no different. If one minute you are selling this way and the next minute you are selling differently - I will guarantee you will get inconsistent results. Let me give you a quick example.

Let's say you have a prospect who needs and wants your product or service and you have been trained to sell it a certain way. But you have decided because this person seems more available or affinitive to you - you decide to adjust your approach and get a bit more friendly than normal, open or whatever - as a result, you create a different sales environment that deviates from your standard approach - one you are unfamiliar with and one the prospect may feel is a bit forward. You have abandoned your process. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you shouldn't tailor your sales message to the style or interests of each prospect, what I'm saying is if and when you abandoned proven sales techniques, strategies, and approaches for something new or different you will get less than historical proven positive outcomes.
I'm not implying that any or all processes are successful or the best approach or that any process should not be open to change, improvement and updating. And, I don't want my heart surgeon sticking with the process when it's his or her instincts to adjust or adapt but I do want them to stick with protocols when situations or circumstances warrant it.

If you don't have and stick with a proven sales process, I will guarantee you live with a great deal of frustration, uncertainty, unknowns, disappointment and even regret from time to time.

-Reliance on a single marketing approach.

Yes, you need a website if you want to succeed and compete. Yes, you need to do Public Relations from time to time. Yes, advertising can help your sales efforts. Yes, emails are necessary occasionally and yes, you also need to pick up the phone once in a while. Get it - You need a successful blending process when it comes to marketing and its support and endorsement of your sales efforts.

When sales efforts rely on a single marketing approach, they will achieve fewer positive responses. When sales activity is not foreshadowed with some market exposure or not supported by follow-up activity you are relying only on the efforts of the sales effort. To get better and more consistent positive results from any sales actions it is a wise move to have both pre and post-sales activity that reinforces the basic fundamental sales message and customer benefits. Think about it - if salesperson A shows up for an appointment to sell - whatever - and the prospect has never heard of his or her organization or product or service - they have got a lot of work to do. When salesperson B shows up for their appointment and the prospect viewed one billboard, heard one radio ad and read one ad on a website they were searching prior to the sales meeting - which of the two appointments do you think will tend to have a better chance of success?

-Poor product/service messaging.

Have you ever watched a product or service commercial and when it was finished you were shaking your head thinking - "what was that all about?" Well, I have - almost every day. I'm not sure how some of these stupid ads make it past management but someone needs to wake them up- they are stupid and don't do the product or service justice. No, I'm not going to site-specific examples as I'm sure you have seen, read or heard your share of them. I just want to point out that if your messaging is confusing, contradictory or can be perceived or interpreted as negative or derogatory in any way it will not contribute to your sales success in any way.

-Over or underuse of specific communication techniques.

Technology wants us to believe that the only way to sell to people today is with social media, emails or the latest Techno Whiz. Yes, these are important and can often be an integral part of lifestyle today but let me assure you "word of mouth" has not lost its impact on the buying public or process. When the average customer has a negative product or service experience, research tells us - they will, on average, tell 9 people. And, those 9 people on average will tell five people and this process just continues on and on - so let me ask you how many people over time do you think will get that negative message and how much money do you need to spend on promotion and advertising to counteract this negative exposure?

Just ask any organization that has lost customers, market share, and even gone belly-up due to negative press and I'm not talking about "fake news" and in hindsight, they will admit they failed to anticipate the negative consequences due to this negative experience.

If you think you are going to hit a home run every time with a campaign of a new product or service relying only on your investment in technology exposure - you are living in "fantasy Land". I can hear some of you now, "NO, Tim you are living in "Denial-Land" and just don't get it - how people are buying today." OK, you are not listening - I didn't say you didn't need to use these media sources to improve sales, I said you need to not rely ONLY on them.

-A lack of execution integrity.

Talk is cheap today. People seem to throw commitments, promises and so many other things at customers, clients, friends, and even family members that in some ways they hope will happen, but are never 100% sure they will. Ever left a message for a supplier who said they would get back to you in 24 hours and after a week, you still hadn't heard from them? Ever have someone tell you they will meet you for; lunch, a meeting, coffee at a certain time and twenty minutes later they finally showed up? Ever been promised a refund by a supplier who said it would only take 24 hours and after a few days you are still waiting? Enough examples - I could give you thousands. The common thread in all of them is a lack of integrity. There are far too many reasons and contributors to this issue in today's sales (and general relationship) environment so let me just cover one simple concept - does this lack of consistency, integrity or commitment in your opinion, contribute to; poor customer loyalty, poor customer relations, poor repeat business, poor references and/or referrals, poor word of mouth and just a poor reputation in general?

If you want to avoid any of these "poor" issues (outcomes, results, consequences) - it's simple - here are five things to consider (yes there are many more) - 1) start meaning what you say and saying what you mean. 2)Stop making excuses - just do it. 3)If you can't do it or are not sure whether it will happen - don't promise it. 4)If circumstances that are beyond your control cause a promise or commitment to not be delivered - fix it quickly. And 5) Learn from your communication mistakes. Stop repeating the same stupid behaviors that are doing nothing to improve your image and sales results whether as an individual or an organization!

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