How to Get Back Up After You Fall Down

Watching the Olympics, it's easy to feel inspired. So many strong, able, beautiful bodies all in one place. So many inspiring stories. It motivates me to get my own body into really good shape.

But I, like most of us, am not even close to understanding what athletes go through to get to the Olympics in the first place.

We all know it's a lot of work. Pre-dawn wake-ups, hard-core work-outs, compromises, schedules, expenses, pain, injury, and rejection.

What we don't know, because they're too numerous to count, are how many times the athletes fell down. In practice. At competitions. The first 100 or 1000 times they tried.

What we do see, however, after all the pain, are the phenomenal feats of athletes such as Skater Adam Rippon, Snowboarder Chloe Kim, and Cross Country Skier Simen Kreuger. We see them only when they're at their best. (And, even then, some do fall, and get back up again.)

What brings these athletes to the Olympics is not only their enormous talent and skill, but their ability to persevere -- to get back up after falling -- and continue on, right where they left off.

I fall down when I get some sort of rejection in my business. Or when I create an idea for a workshop that just doesn't fly. Or when I find myself neglecting my work, my health, or my family.

Where do you fall down? What do you do to get back up?

Of course, it hurts to fall down. And the more we fall, the worse it can feel! And, if we're sensitive or perfectionist, it might feel almost unbearable. But each time we fall, we're presented once again, with the chance to get back up and do it even better the next time.

Here are some tips to help you get back up again:

Accept mistakes and misfortunes as part of the game. It's not about something being wrong with you. Or even that you did something wrong. The more you swim around in feelings of defeat, the more defeated you will feel. Allow yourself to begin to let go of your perception that mistakes and 'failures' are wrong. Instead, remind yourself that each misstep is actually a stepping stone towards your goal.

Surround yourself with love and acceptance. Give yourself some much-needed love at those times when you're feeling down and defeated. Hug yourself, literally, by wrapping your arms across your chest, holding the points above your elbows. Close your eyes, and hold yourself like this, breathing deeply, and imagine a field of love and compassion all around you.

Feel your uncomfortable feelings, and then let them go. It's okay to feel sad, angry, disappointed, ashamed, frustrated, or scared when you lose your footing. Embrace these feelings, and then let them release. Holding onto them, or resisting them, will only make them stronger in the end. Try deep breathing, meditation, or EFT Tapping to clear away your uncomfortable feelings.

Use your experience as guidance for your next step. What can you learn from your fall? What can you do differently next time? Is there a different way to prepare? Do you have inner blocks or doubts you need to release? Assess your situation, take action, and move forward.

Use Creative Visualization. Visualization is a very popular tool among athletes. Often, you'll notice that an athlete appears to be going over her routine in her mind, right before a performance. This visual rehearsing helps the subconscious mind remember what to do, automatically. When done consistently, visualization will teach the subconscious mind a new pattern, and the 'thinking' brain (with all its fears and limitations) can take a rest.

Reach out for support. One thing is very clear. Athletes need the support of their coaches, teammates, friends, and family. A healthy source of support can help minimize the effects of failure. If you're feeling unsupported, reach out to a friend, family member, or professional. The right support will help you feel encouraged, so you can build and strengthen your sense of value, confidence, and courage.

What I love about EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting, is that they're such amazing tools to help when we've fallen down. EFT helps to release uncomfortable feelings, and increase a sense of peace and calm. Matrix Reimprinting uses the creative mind to overwrite an old limiting vision with a brand new, positive vision. Invaluable tools to help us get back up again.

In Love and Courage,

Marian

Hello! I'm a certified EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. I specialize in helping sensitive, heart-centered creatives boost confidence, courage, and self-love. Visit my website at http://marianbuckmurray.com/.

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When Night Falls On You

Bad things happen to good people, to unsuspecting and innocent people who did nothing to invite those things into their life. Events will happen in life; your response defines the magnitude of the event and how much of your future will be effected by them. When significant events happen they can become an emotional hook in our lives, one that encompasses years of our future consistently dragging us back to the raw emotions experienced in those events. Anger is the most honest response, because anger is fear wearing a mask that is acceptable. This is the real monster that arrives on the scene and plans to stay for years; maybe even a lifetime. How do we escape from fear?

Fear is rooted in the belief that what is before us is much bigger and stronger than we are capable of battling. It is born from horror, dread, fright and panic; all emotions we feel when confronted with events that make us feel helpless. How we express that fear defines our future.

Some people attempt to become more fearsome than the cause of their fear. They react by assuming the role of bully, abuser and worse, deluding them into believing that by becoming even more grotesque than the cause of their fear there can be nothing to be afraid of. And a new monster is born.

How do we escape? Fear is not an emotion we are born with; it is a learned response that can even be beneficial. It is good to be afraid of touching flames, ingesting poison or a host of other things. It is a protective deterrent. This is completely different from fear that is born from events we have no control over. Fear born of terror can be life altering. Anger is the correct initial response but it must be dealt with. This kind of fear is traumatic and requires a path that prevents it from making us captive. Trauma is real and it needs to talk. You may notice that those who have experienced real trauma talk about it incessantly in the beginning. Let them, trauma must talk. It is the first step to conquering this emotion. In times of anger, resentment or rage, all we can do is burn through it like a blazing fire and offer it up to the universe.

There is a grieving process involved in recovery from trauma that is very much like the grief we feel when someone dies. Why? Because a part of us has died; it is the death of innocence, of believing the world we lived in before was the way our world would always be. We have lost the innocence of believing that our tomorrows are in our control and that doing the right thing may not guarantee this will be true. This is painful and a new door opens called denial. We feel compelled to deny that this event has changed us; but it has.

The next door that opens is bearing a new emotion; profound sadness. There is a mourning process for what you have lost, for the emotions you were forced to feel and for the things that have changed within you. Your life now has a filter through which all things are viewed. Take the time to process this thoroughly and make a sincere effort to create a category in your mind for these kinds of events. This will allow you to remove that filter for things that do not need to be filtered through that lens. Failing to do this may create a bias within that will color everything in your future. It is important to keep things that do not need to be filtered through that lens out. There are varying levels of sadness, sorrow and vulnerability, but true, deep and profound sadness stems from the surety that there is nothing at all we can do about what has happened. It actually requires us to mourn whatever has caused this. It is only then that we can 'cut away the grave cloths that have bound us' and step back into a world with color again.

Love is the most healing emotion we will encounter. To be loved unconditionally is a gift of enormous proportions. Spend time with the people whose love you can trust. Know that you are blessed through their gift of love. Cherish those who stand by you; they are the greatest gift in life. Learning to trust again is the next step in recovery.

Crying is a healthy response that may accompany your throughout this time. Have you ever noticed that after you allow yourself to burn through anger and have a really good cry, your eyes become really luminous and clear! And there's your soul, staring back at you saying, "I'm back, better than before!

When true darkness falls on your life, when you're standing at the cross roads and don't know which path to choose, be still and look within. If you listen carefully you will hear the still small voice that resides within all of us, encouraging you to carry un

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Let Go of the Need to Be Perfect

So many of us experience the stress and pressure to be perfect. At first the desire to please our parents and siblings is a serious motivator, wanting to be told that we're 'good' often influencing our behaviour and choices. Even at nursery, children often experience stress, being eager to fit in, do well and be accepted by other children, approved of by teachers.

Everything from our taste in music, the way we look and dress, through to our academic accomplishments can feel subject to scrutiny - either from ourselves, or others, or both. Even a loving, supportive environment can trigger stress, caused by the need to be perfect, where we are loathe to be a disappointment.

This need to be perfect mindset can remain with us and cause ongoing stress, impacting on everything we do. But being perfect is neither achievable or desirable. Being good is often fine, whilst giving us something more to aspire to.

How can we let go of the need to be perfect?

- In childhood children can feel that they need to justify their parents' efforts, struggles and investment in them. Sometimes parents live vicariously through their children. They want them to have the opportunities they didn't have, achieve the heights they missed out on. But their dreams may cause stress and anxiety and not sit well with their child's, or two children may be very different in temperament and ability.

Avoid 'naming' your child the handsome, intelligent or clumsy one and reassure them that each is unique and special. Having to repeat a year at school, considering an apprenticeship, choosing a career option that doesn't include university are all valid ways to lead happy, fulfilling lives.

- Accept that our critics and judges are only human too. How often do we see someone undertake something 'tough' with comparative ease and yet struggle with something we would find straightforward? We all have different skill sets, talents and abilities. Celebrating those variations releases stress and gives permission for each of us to do well in our own way.

- Appreciate that others may present a great-looking persona whilst struggling with their own issues. Think of those photos on social media where 'everyone' is having 'the very best night of their lives'. Social media, with its temporary self-deleting images, creates a sense of urgency and the need to constantly check what's happening. Fear of missing out causes lots of stress.

Yet many times we'll have been part of an event, participated in the photos and live-streaming and found it a pleasant enough time, but not out of the ordinary. Once the photo or recording was over and the perfect illusion created everything went back to 'normal'.

- Have you ever been relieved to see someone regarded as perfect, an expert in their field make a mistake or slip up slightly? Watching as they occasionally stammered, forgot their words, apologised for an error or for not knowing something meant we relaxed and felt better about ourselves. It's not about gloating over another's imperfections or fallibility, but rather about easing the pressure we put ourselves under, reassured to discover no one's perfect.

- Have rules. Turn off your technology, especially your social media at certain times in the evening. Try to limit your time online to specific periods each day. Step back and remember that many people use social media to promote themselves, project a specific image or convey a point of view. It has a role, but it isn't real life.

- Meet people face to face and have conversations where you invest time and interest in those relationships. When you talk together you'll find that others share the same thoughts, feelings, insecurities that you do. It helps release the stress and pressure you may be subjecting yourself to.

- Appreciate the role of failure. Repeating a year of education, having something not work out as you'd hoped can turn out to be a valuable learning opportunity in the long-term. It may open unexpected new doors where you meet new people, establish great relationships and revise your plans.

- Get outside. Go for walks, play games, enjoy fresh air, exercise and time with others. Exercise is a great way to manage stress and have some me time.

- Avoid referencing people by how they look, their size or capabilities. Quirky dressing, individual approaches to life and excellence often incorporate skills sets different from our own. We may even seek to utilise their idiosyncratic approach on occasion. Appreciate the variations in your own social circle and refrain from being judgmental.

- It can be easy to mock what we don't understand or feel comfortable with. We may metaphorically 'hold the bully's coat' and so excuse ourselves by saying we're not joining in. Relax and make space for those different outlooks and viewpoints. There's room for all.

Take time to reflect on your early years when you were your own worst critic, desperate to be perfect. Now you look at those old photographs or school reports with affection and wish you could reassure the younger you that there's no need to stress about it, everything turned out fine.

Susan Leigh, Altrincham, Cheshire, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support.

She's author of 3 books, 'Dealing with Stress, Managing its Impact', '101 Days of Inspiration #tipoftheday' and 'Dealing with Death, Coping with the Pain', all on Amazon & with easy to read sections, tips and ideas to help you feel more positive about your life.

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Speak Your Truth When It Scares You Because It Is The One True Measure Of Your Authenticity

Why bother speaking the truth in a world full of fake news? Because truth is the only measure of our authenticity expressed through our soul. To deny expressing it means hiding our authentic self behind a veil of falsehoods. Reflect on the times when you spoke your truth even if it hurt those you love. How did you feel? Did you notice a weight lifted off your shoulder, especially if you held back communicating something of importance? I have been in this situation many times where I thought speaking my truth would fall on deaf ears. I believed they would not receive it in the way I intended and so I held back.

Sometimes people are not ready to hear the truth and, although they listen, they're only hearing what they want to hear. Do you get this impression? It can be difficult because your truth and my truth differs, and this causes conflict between two people, even amongst family members. I often laugh when someone begins a sentence by saying: "Do you want to know the truth?" What I'm really hearing is: "I'm about to tell you something which you'll disagree with but here it is anyway." The truth is subjective to our life's experience, beliefs, values and opinions. It is why I am drawn to the passage by the author of Toltec wisdom Don Miguel Ruiz who writes in The Three Questions: How to Discover and Master the Power Within You of the enduring nature of the truth in our lives: "Life is truth, and it doesn't need to be understood. Truth doesn't need proof, or even faith, to survive. And it doesn't need our stories. Truth existed before stories before humanity; and truth will continue after all the storytellers are gone. We don't need a thought or a theory to show us the truth. Truth can be felt in our loving and in our enduring passion to live."

We mustn't withhold speaking our truth for fear it will upset others. If the truth is spoken from the heart and not the egoic mind, hopefully the other person will consider it with an open mind and heart. In an age of fake news, the truth is more important than ever. More people need to speak their truth from the heart for that is how we practice authentic communication. The heart is the seat of the soul and if aligned with our highest intent, it becomes a measure of connecting through a soulful presence. Is this something you're willing to practice? Even though your voice will tremble when you speak the truth, it will be worth it coming from the heart. I have experienced holding back speaking my truth in front of audiences due to limiting thoughts: "How will people receive what I have to say?" "What if I disappoint them?" Nevertheless, I've come to appreciate how others receive me is not within my control. I can only communicate from my heart and remove any sense of fear, anger or hate and allow my words to come forth with love.

Our truth is the language of the soul and carries strength in its meaning and significance. I'm reminded of the biblical phrase: "The truth will set you free" which underscores how withholding our truth can destroy us. Communicating from the heart will lead to our greatest salvation and the freedom that accompanies it. As you read this, reflect on a situation now calling you to speak from the heart yet you may be afraid to do so. I trust by the end of the article you will have gained a sense of what action you need to take. I hope you choose your words wisely and listen to the whisper of your heart speaking in the song of love, not anger, nor hate or fear.

If we communicate through weakening emotions, we must turn our attention to ourselves to see where we are at war with. What part of us is calling to be nurtured? Because that is the part we most need to love. In doing so, the words we bring forth will arise from a place of spirited love and we needn't worry whether speaking our truth will offend others. For when two people come together in this spirit of love, the language communicated is easily understood by their hearts without an agenda.

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How to Stop Imposter Syndrome in Her Tracks and Be More UP Yourself

We've all experienced it at some time in our life. Feeling like we're not good enough, like we'll be found out or like we're out of our depth.

Damn you imposter syndrome. She sure can hit hard, especially for us women. It's so common that I included a question in my Cards for Uniqueness pack asking

"When have you ever felt or acted like an imposter?"

I find it fascinating to hear people's responses to the question, particularly if they draw the card during our podcast interview. No matter what their background or story they can always remember a moment when they felt it most poignantly.

The truth is it can happen to anyone at any time regardless of our experience, status, position or title. It can happen professionally and even socially. You know the feeling - that internal knot, that questioning mind, it undermines our competence, capability and confidence And once it's started it can be a slippery slope to go down.

So we want to identify her, call her out and stop her in her tracks when she tries to take a grip. Here are 3 ways to STOP imposter syndrome in her tracks and be more UP Yourself:

"I'm not doing it unless I can do it perfectly."
Stop being a perfectionist princess, she's one of impostor syndromes best friends. This thinking is highly damaging to your self-esteem aka being UP Yourself. I know what you're thinking, but isn't it important to do a good job? Of course it is but setting excessively high goals and standards for yourself will most certainly leave you feeling inadequate and like an imposter when you fail to reach the goal. You set yourself up for failure and then you get to beat yourself up for not measuring up!

Tip: Stop trying to control everything princess. When you miss your ridiculous self-imposed mark on something, do not you accuse yourself of "not being cut out" for you're the task. No-one can be perfect and do perfect work must be 100 per cent of the time.

If you find yourself constantly believing you could've done even better then start owning and celebrating your achievements and taking your mistakes in your stride, viewing them as a natural part of the process. Truth is, there will never be the "perfect time" and your work will never be a perfect 10. The sooner you accept that and be more UPtimistic, the better off you'll be.

"I was just lucky."
So you think you've got lady luck on your side huh? All the time? Seriously.

Be more up yourself woman. You've worked hard to get where you are right? If you keep putting down your successes and achievements to luck, your imposter just might start feeding you BS like you'll be found out and you won't be able to continue your success. Luck is when opportunity and preparation meet and I'm guessing you've been doing a lot of preparation which takes competence and persistence. Sure lady luck can shine on us every once in a while but you've got to remember and recognise all that you've done to contribute to your own success. Bottoms Up!

"Oh it was nothing really."
Imposter syndrome sucks when it stops you from seeing yourself your own brilliance. Especially here in Australia where tall poppy syndrome is rife people are so afraid of appearing up themselves that they are more likely to put themselves down and reduce their efforts to nothing. Problem is good old imposter gets strong every time you do this. It strengthens your neural pathways and her power over you. If you constantly hear yourself saying, "Oh, it was nothing. I'm sure anyone could have done it." Or "It was no big deal, really." Then you know you're falling for the disease of tall poppy. Time to be more UP Yourself - focus on doing your absolute best and when you do and someone complements you simply say "Why thank you." Cue loud applause.

Go in and UP!
Isn't it time you stopped playing small and letting the imposter within you win. You've come too far to not start believing in yourself and worry about what your little inner voice is saying. Being more UP Yourself is a decision. Decide to back yourself because you're worth it.

Keynote speaker and workplace futurist, Heidi Alexandra is without a doubt a leading authority on the topic of the power of unleashing individual's unique strengths and power so they can volunteer their best work every day. Obsessed with helping leaders, organisations and entrepreneurs to create companies that balance people, planet and purpose with profit, she founded UQ Power - an executive development consultancy dedicated to rethinking and reimagining the workplace. You can download her free report Unleash Your Future Potential Now at http://www.UQPower.com.au

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Turn Your Fear Into a Path to Your Strength and Recharge Your Time

Finding time to work with difficult feelings like fear can ultimately recharge your energy and confidence.

And the good news is that it doesn't need to eat up a lot of your time to get there.

Indeed, as you develop the habit of looking your difficult feelings right in the eye, you'll find that it's a big time-saver and energy boost for you. You'll experience the added bonus of exercising a lot more positive, proactive control over your time, too, because you'll stop taking the long way around things as an avoidance tactic.

We'll focus specifically on fear in this post - remembering that as you work with this, you can substitute any feeling that is difficult for you.

Start here...
So, to start, here's a useful mantra. Repeat this to yourself as you begin this empowering journey: "I turn my fear into a path to my strength."

Maybe in the past, you've tried to hide your fear from sight. In fact, maybe you go so far as to deny your feelings to yourself. You would rather not think of yourself as indecisive or uncommitted.

That's a natural-enough feeling, but it's one that actually reinforces your fears and will keep you firmly stuck in them.

There's a far more productive way to approach your fears: consciously reframe them as challenges that will call you to develop new and exciting strengths! This puts them in a positive context, and, even more importantly, places you in a proactive (rather than a reactive) stance toward them. Right there you are taking back your power and putting yourself in charge.

That changes everything!

So, the next time you feel fear about saying no, don't push that fear away. Greet it as a friend with important information to share.

3 Questions
Here are 3 questions you can ask, as you pursue a deeper understanding of your fear. Ask yourself:

• How can I turn this fear inside out? (Reframe it as an opportunity.)
• What lesson have I been trying to avoid? (Embracing it will ground and empower you.)
• How will I reinvent myself once I say no? (The assertiveness you develop will expand your potential.)

Let your imagination roam freely as you work these questions - the answers you receive may surprise you - and I'd love to hear your experience as you make this empowering journey!

So... are you inspired to find even more time and increase your effectiveness, efficiency and enjoyment?

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When You Heal Yourself First, The Rest Will Fall Into Place

Nothing Is An Accident But Results From Our Thinking

How would you describe your relationship with yourself? Is it a kind, compassionate and nurturing one or does it encompass a critical voice? It is important we understand the way we treat ourselves because it impacts how we relate to others. I realise many people have been hurt, whether it be through childhood wounds or intimate relationships. We have all experienced pain and suffering at some point. However, this shouldn't mean we carry our emotional wounds around and unload them on others. Whilst we may not have consented to the experience that caused us pain, it is incumbent on us to heal the wounds and find our way back to wholeness.

Life is not fair at the best of times, yet if we buy into this narrative, we are bound to lose hope. It is better we see life as a process where good things happen and sometimes unfortunate things happen. I'm not convinced life is out to get us. However, in my early 20s I was certain it was, since unpleasant experiences seemed like I was being punished. It wasn't until my early 30s I realised it was my thoughts that regulated how I interacted with life. That is to say, the wisdom of the years has taught me that life is impartial and my thinking determines my outlook. I am the tuning fork and life echoes back the experience of my thoughts. Ever since then, I have become attentive to my surroundings and inner world. For example, if I'm ruminating on something negative, I will see evidence of this in my waking life, such as repeated TV commercials about what I am focusing on. I am attentive to it and snap out of it quickly. Have you noticed this in your life? Do you observe your surroundings and pay attention to your inner world such as your dreams?

The point I wish to make is that healing is an inside out job. It begins by nurturing our thoughts with what we want to show up in our life. What we believe at a deeper level becomes our destiny, whether we like it or not. We are not victims given the deeper meaning behind every experience that teaches us valuable lessons. I see life as one giant mirror and we are the architects and creators of our reality. What we call a deleterious experience is the universe shining a light on our thoughts. I know this may sound insensitive but the universe doesn't care what we think about. The universe is aligned with fundamental laws and when we abide by them, the circumstances of our life flow like a stream. We create every experience through our thoughts. Therefore, if we wish to heal the past, we ought to concede that nothing is an accident but results from our thinking. Is this an idea you are willing to embrace? Irrespective of your life's experience up till now, are you willing to give life a chance?

Heal The Distorted Beliefs And Replace Them With The Truth

When you make it a priority to heal yourself first, everything falls into place. When we perceive life differently, outside circumstances begin to reflect our thoughts. Granted, it may take a while but what is the rush? I often hear people talk about healing to the extent it is now embellished on social media with inspirational quotes. But no one tells us what it requires because no two paths to healing are the same. Some people spend their entire life healing and are still wounded. Healing requires understanding we are already whole as spiritual beings, yet throughout life we take on beliefs that distort this sense of wholeness. Healing is seeing past the illusion we are broken or need to be fixed. Whilst healing is important, integrating our wounds into the wholeness of our true nature is vital. We were never broken to begin with but lose our way throughout our earthly existence.

Healing requires putting the pieces of our life back together and stripping away what is not essential. It requires letting go of negativity by way of: fear, anger, anxiety and other disempowering states. These states find their way into our psyche and just like a computer virus, cause destruction until it takes over. Our job is to heal these distorted beliefs and replace them with the truth. We are none of these things and that is why healing is a return to love; the place we originated from and where we will eventually return. This is the essence of the message espoused by the spiritual teacher and author Matt Khan who writes in Everything Is Here to Help You: A Loving Guide to Your Soul's Evolution: "When rooted in the vibration of love, we don't have to be completely healed in order to bring forth the kindness and care that already dwells within us. Love inspires us to console the innocence within our heart that wishes it felt something other than how things are." With this is mind, your task over the coming days is to write down a list of what you believe is standing in your way of living a remarkable life. On a separate page, write down whether you know for certain this is true? How can you reframe these beliefs? What needs to change to create empowering beliefs and are you prepared to do the work? Once we heal ourselves, life begins to mirror our inner world because we have attended to the root cause of our pain.

Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? If so, download your FREE copy of my eBook NAVIGATE LIFE right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today!

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Empowered Compassion Offers You a Path Straight to Time Success

Genuine self-empowerment requires both realism and compassion. Only then can you develop the resilience to flex without giving yourself away. And as compassion becomes a way of life, you thrive by relating as a human, not a superhuman.

Any place you start exploring and experimenting with Empowered Compassion™ is fine. Just remember, any growthful change works best when you start small and work up.

These 7 tips will help you take your first steps.

TIP #1:

Empowered Compassion™ draws its strength from your embracing the responsibility to be all you can be.

When you truly care about yourself, you naturally want to assume full responsibility for your life. As you grow your autonomy, you provide for your own needs. Not only that, but you make use of the choices that don't work out, learning useful lessons from ALL of your experiences.

TIP #2:

Empowered Compassion™ is grounded in the present moment.

You focus on how you can stand in your power right now. You don't immobilize yourself with fears of the future. You don't torture yourself with past regrets. Instead, you fully exercise your power in the one moment that exists - this one!

TIP #3:

Empowered Compassion™ helps you put unresolved anger in perspective.

The more you develop your own power, the less energy you spend recycling old grievances. Self-reference consolidates your power in your own choices. Focusing on how you can help yourself in the present becomes the top priority. Not only that, but as you embrace your own humanity, you accept others' fallibility more readily, too.

TIP #4:

Empowered Compassion™ overcomes self-criticism.

Living from this place, you create a climate where there is no room for self-criticism. Self-criticism feeds on unrealistic standards and a fundamental lack of self-respect. Empowered Compassion™ is pragmatic, realistic and kind. The more you value autonomy, the more you naturally support your strength and success.

TIP #5:

Empowered Compassion™ promotes authenticity.

You are befriending who you really are. By relating with honesty and directness, you stand on firm ground and are able to give your all. This is a very powerful way to live! Each time you step out and risk more fully, you invalidate past messages that say you need to hide behind a mask. You effectively replace those distortions with powerful, concrete confirmations of the fact that you belong in the world.

TIP #6:

Empowered Compassion™ is easy to distinguish from self-pity.

Self-pity blames and defends. It protects whatever you did that didn't work. On the other hand, when you relate from a place of Empowered Compassion™, you don't waste time scrambling for excuses. Your interest is in figuring out what works, and you give yourself every opportunity to enjoy success as you move forward.

TIP #7:

Empowered Compassion™ is a step-by-step process.

Rather than view this as a lofty goal, think of it simply as a way of befriending yourself right now. Every small step you take to support yourself helps! A little bit at a time, you will grow in thoughtfulness and realism, and outworn patterns will gradually lose their hold over you.

Right here, right now is just the place to be!

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Change Your Life Around Today By Creating A Life Plan As A Happy Learner

There are various types of people in the world.

Some individuals are happy with the hard work of a good business for numerous years, then retiring, others do not desire to keep the same job for too long and keep looking for something better.

And, still others want to work for themselves.

A Course in Miracles teaches us deeply about 'wrong-mindedness' and 'right-mindedness,' both qualities of the ego-based mind-- that is built on fear and self-doubt.

I've studied about individuals and the charge for success in an extremely-unique method, and I'll give you a taste of what operating from the right-mind versus the wrong-mind means.

There have been a lot of books about ways to sell, how to experience prosperity and abundance, and other comparable titles.

Much of them offer complicated formulas for success.

There are two types of people in the world, wrong-minded and right-minded, and as humans, still both are ego-based.

The 'right-minded' individual still with doubt and fear, and we as humans while in this world will always have these traits, yet this more in tune mind knows deeper within how to reach spirit and be guided.

This guidance he/she receives overplays the doom and gloom scenario occupied by the wrong-minded thinker.

There are happy learning yet still sometimes unfortunate right-minded people, but they know how to listen within, get back up after a hard fall and keep moving forward in life.

Let's begin with the wrong-minded thinker:

These are the people who yell a lot, stress over due dates, and think the world is coming to an end if they don't succeed at every little thing they do.

When they do not succeed rather than learning from past errors, it's another person's fault for not being a sad wrong-minded person, too.

They are also the individuals who tend to pass away young of a heart attack or a stroke because of the massive pressure they put on themselves.

Now, let's go on to the right-minded man or woman:

These people are simply as driven as the wrong-minded guy/gal to succeed, except they take pleasure in every minute of it.

They enjoy the process, or the road taken.

They know success is an evasive victim, but it's the real charge they love more than the success itself.

They will constantly be successful due to the fact that they do take pleasure in the pursuit, not simply the achievement after the win.

They enjoy succeeding and helping those around them to succeed.

I have great news for you if you operate from the right-mind. You are well on your own way to success, so make sure you are actually creating a life plan.

A happy optimistic person gets up every early morning way prior than need be, since they anticipate every day and want to get a head start.

A delighted thinker, still with some doubts and fears, does not have to chew out and bully others because they will follow the lead and because they want to resemble them.

A happy thinker may help you plan your life and leads by example.

Previously I discussed free books and other material available to help an individual tap into his/her inner power for success.

I also noted that this right-minded person let's nothing take control and has learned mind training to charge at fear and self-doubt head on.

You have to do the things a happy learner does if success in your household or business is your goals and objectives and you want to be a happy learner.

If something knocks you down, you have to instantly get back up and take a look at what went wrong, learn from it, and charge after you're your goals and objectives and get the task done.

Are you really a happy learner?

The world's truly optimistic people have their own concept of success and not everyone has the courage to operate this way.

Now let's look the wrong-minded sad learner again:

They stand around being afraid to speak out or to learn something brand new, never doing very much, just kind of biding their time by.

They see the person of true optimism who is not afraid to follow spirit's guidance, and talk behind their backs saying things like, "It must be nice to be that fortunate."

They lower their head and go right back to mumbling and gossiping about successful others, while not doing anything toward personal transformation with their lot in life, accepting whatever is offered to them.

They grumble that anybody who succeeds is just fortunate and that they can not appear to ever get a break.

Now confess.

You understand a minimum of one unfortunate pessimistic person and do you like being around that sad soul?

Are you the sad soul?

I give the following advice for clearing away this self-limiting lack-based lifestyle if you are or have a good friend who is the unfortunate sad learner.

Stop over-thinking, and start taking action to plan your life in this instant right now.

Remember, a happy person creating a life plan doesn't need to belittle or bully others, just to get things done.

To plan your life you must both lead and follow out of respect due to the fact that we are all helping each other while in this world.

We right-minded doers and thinkers are always happy learning more while helping others along the way.

( I also recommend seeking the net for further helpful material helping you define the meaning of success for yourself so you may take steps toward creating the life you want.)

To success and happiness!

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Law Of Attraction - The Key To A Happy Life

Surviving the ordeal, is how some people see their lives, whereas others, see it as an experience to be cherished. No matter who you are, what your background is, how much wealth do you have, the topic we are going to discuss, will affect each and every moment of your life. The only thing that your happiness depends on is you and your outlook.

Believe it or not, the world is governed by one simple law. This law talks about energies and vibrations around you and also opens doors on how to harness them. The very basic language that can explain the law is, you will become what you think. Have you ever wondered, why some people always stay healthy, happy and positive throughout their lives, whereas some people seem to be irritated, unhappy and negative. After all we live in the same world and face the same challenges everyday. You may argue about the money in people's pockets and use a logic saying more money means happiness and less of it means worry. But, what if I tell you that most of the sleepless nights are experienced by the rich and wealthy and the most peaceful sleepers are the ones with less or no money at all.

So, with this logic failed, what exactly is this mysterious law that brings happiness and positivity in your life. The three magic words that can make or break your inner strength are 'Law of Attraction'. I'm sure you might have heard of it somewhere or the other. But, have you ever wondered what is it and how does it work?

This law basically governs your life, completely. The definition is simple, it is what you attract will affect your life. If you attract positive energies with your thoughts, you change for good and if you do the opposite and attract negative energies, the results will be demotivating. The next question that arises is how to really attract these energies around? There are no special skills involved. Voluntarily or involuntarily, we are all doing it throughout our lives. From the first breath that we take to the last one, we are unknowingly being governed by this universal law.

Let us get into detail with an example. A common situation with today's youth is the job search. Something which haunts their parents as well. Now, let us take two friends A and B who have both graduated from college but could not make it into any company. Now, A is a happy go lucky person who believes in working hard and staying positive whereas B is a negative thinker and has a perception that something once gone wrong cannot be corrected. Who do you think has more chances of getting a job? The answer is obvious. This situation explains the basics of law of attraction.

Various other situations and circumstances present themselves in our lives. The only key to being successful is believing in a better tomorrow and never giving up. A world renowned comedian and motivational speak, Jim Carrey, said a very beautiful thing in one of his speeches. He asked people to have faith and not hope. He referred to hope as a beggar and faith as a believer. There was a time when he had nothing in his life, but he never gave up and one fine day, the movie Dumb and Dumber happened and changed his life forever. You too are just a few steps away from being the one you've always wanted to be.

Believe me when I say that while I write this article, I am facing one of the worst situations someone can face in life in their lifetime. The only thing giving me strength to stay positive and write this article is this universal truth. It is the law of attraction that helps me attract the positive from the universe. Just think of the good part and let it work it's spell on you. Problems are a part of everybody's life, what matters in the end is how you see it. Remember, there is light at the end of every tunnel, you just need to take a few more steps to be free.

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A Day in the Life of a Person Hooked on Drugs

Drug addiction is a chronic disease that feeds the receptors in the brain, giving a feeling of high. From the first smoke, the first snowball, and the first snort onwards, the individual experiences a roller coaster ride fueled by gigantic "highs" and devastating "falls." At times, the drug user could experience the feeling of going down the rabbit hole with no respite in sight from the barrage of hallucinations, negative feelings like self-doubt, withdrawal symptoms, etc.

From the time one wakes up until he or she finally rests for the day, a person addicted to drugs could be going through several emotional upheavals. A brief account of what he or she experiences is provided below.

• Feeding the beast: Drug addiction is a beast, an enormous beast that is always hungry. Hard to please. A person who has been drawn into the maze of drug use is constantly preoccupied with the task of obtaining drugs. From the time he or she wakes up, he is tasked by the "how," "when" and the "where" to obtain drug. While the rest worry about food, job, friends, family and kids, a person living with a drug habit worries about the dwindling supply of drugs, and how he or she would get by another day without his or her dose of Vicodin, OxyContin or crack. As explained by someone who has been into drugs, feeding the drug habit is a full-time job, and the possibility of a person tending to other responsibilities, such as family, friends and job, is remote.


• Fending off the withdrawal scare: Quitting drugs is not easy. Most drugs cause physical dependence and addiction. As a result, a person who has been hooked on a drug for long is loath to leave it. Whether it is physical or psychological dependence, the pangs of drug withdrawal cause a relapse or remission and force the user to act, think and feel in ways that might seem bizarre or irresponsible to others. The withdrawal pangs may range from mild to severe. Even ordinary sleeping aids, such as Ambien, when used for long, result in withdrawal pain. Stronger drugs like opioids and meth, on the other hand, are associated with excruciatingly severe withdrawal symptoms and if there is no timely intervention it may even result in an overdose death. While drugs like heroin and cocaine are associated with a physical dependence, others, such as speed or hallucinogens, cause dependence that is psychological in nature.


• Euphoria quickly fades away: One of the primary reasons why people use drugs is because it causes the feeling of euphoria. Drugs such as 3,4-methylenedioxy-methamphetamine (MDMA), Ritalin, Adderall, amphetamine, meth and cocaine trigger the release of neurotransmitters and make one feel good. Euphoria is a feeling of happiness and well-being. However, the euphoria quickly fades away and one is left feeling dazed, lonely and sad.


• Drawn into the endless circle of manipulations and lies: Those who have the drug habit are not born liars or manipulators. Unfortunately, drug abuse and addiction could cause them to use unethical means, such as manipulations or lies. Most teens resort to lying to coerce money out of their parents. Lying about pursuing a new hobby or hitchhiking trip or paying off a car loan while all they care about is buying the next day's supply of drugs could cause them to resent themselves in the long run.


• Losing friends and jobs: It is hard to keep a drug addiction a secret and employers are rarely sympathetic to people who have a drug habit. Inevitably, the pressure of employment and feeding a drug habit too soon spirals out of control and the individual loses his or her job, self-respect and friends.


• Fearing being found alone dead or overdosed: There is always the fear of being found alone overdosed and dead. Overdosing deaths have shown a dramatic upsurge and it is reported that in 2015 alone, nearly 52,000 Americans lost their lives to drug overdoses, which included 33,000 deaths related to heroin, fentanyl and other opioids. In order to stem the tide of deaths due to overdosing, certain groups have called for safe houses or places where one can smoke or inject drugs under medical supervision.

There is hope

According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH), in 2014, 7 million people in America aged 12 and older lived with a drug use disorder. The drug endemic is expected to continue unabated in 2017 as well. Apart from marijuana and cocaine, many fatal concoctions, such as fentanyl, are being shipped by the Mexican drug cartels or are home grown in underground labs. Drug addiction changes every aspect of a person's life, not just his but also that of his or her friends, family and colleagues. It can cost a loved one his livelihood and even life if help is not found.

Thankfully, there is hope. Drug addictions are treatable, provided one reaches out to the right therapist or rehab center in time. To learn more about how you or your loved one can get the help you need for drug addiction, contact the Arizona Drug Addiction Helpline today. If you or your loved one is suffering from an addiction, our representatives can help you with the relevant information on drug rehabilitation centers. Call at our 24/7 helpline number 866-576-4147 to find out about the drug addiction treatment centers.

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Are You Buying Into Someone Else's Narrative?

If someone was to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, they are likely to hear about what is taking place in the world. It can seem as though the channel or paper is simply passing onto them what is taking place; nothing more, nothing less.

This whole process will then be very similar to what is said about a sports match that has finished; what is said is likely to be an accurate account of what happened. In both cases, there will be no reason for someone to question what they are told.

The Big Illusion

However, although this may appear to be the case, it couldn't be further from the truth. In reality, the news station that they watch or the paper that they read has narrative and just about everything that they cover will be in alignment with that narrative.

Therefore, the mainstream media will have made up a story about what everything means and they will do their best to get other people to buy into this story. Creating the impression that their story is the truth will be a big part of what causes so many people to buy into it.

A Second-hand Experience

If someone buys into what this source of information tells them is the truth, it will prevent them from being able to form their own views about the world. And one thing that is pretty clear about the mainstream media is that it wants people to live in fear and not to get along with each other.

With this in mind, if one allows this source to define how they see the world, not only will they have an inaccurate view of the world; they will also find it hard to experience inner peace and to see other people as individuals in their own right. The outcome of this is that one's mental and emotional wellbeing is going to be undermined.

Closer to Home

It would be easy to only focus on the mainstream media, but one is also likely to find that there are people in their own life who want them to buy into their own narrative. For example, someone that they know could say that all members of the opposite gender are the same or that life is meaningless.

This person is not going to be able to acknowledge that this is just a story that they have made up; no, they will make out that this is the absolute truth. The more people that they can get to buy into this story, the more convinced they are likely to become.

A Choice

Ultimately, one can buy into someone else's story and lead a life that is anything but fulfilling, or they can create their own narrative and lead a life that is fulfilling. What this emphasises is how powerful one's own narrative is.

In each moment of their life, they are interpreting what they experience based on the narrative that they have formed. Taking this into account, if someone is not leading a very fulfilling life, they may need to change the story that they have created.

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Keys To Understand Success

There has not been a single educational conference that I had attended during my college days that did not have at least one student stand up and ask, "How do you define success?". The answers have been varied according to the presenters' own life experiences. Most of us tend to define success as per some societal norms that have been decided ages ago by our forefathers, but do these definitions really help? Let us see some of the ways in which we really learn to understand how to define success.

Experience

Although this might seem a little out there, anyone who is of age would definitely have had multiple experiences in life that are a combination of misery, pain, suffering, joy, satisfaction, and acceptance. It is important to start learning early in life what these experiences might mean later in life. For example, if a student continues to get insufficient grades in a particular subject, it is important to realize that this subject might be of little value when moving on to bigger things in life. Identifying the do's and don'ts from early experiences can help create a focused mind driven towards genuine success.

Sharing

This one is a given. There can be no doubt of the fact that sharing from an early age can substantially help in creating an open and broader mind. What one person thinks of her accomplishments might or might not be mirrored in another's. Through sharing, one might run into someone who shares an equal passion of caring for the destitute, for example, or someone who doesn't, might get genuinely impressed and influenced by such kind of passion. Sharing also helps a person identify what they do not want to be, thus being able to increase focus, and become more goal-oriented.

Your niche

Through a continuous analysis of the experiences in life and the knowledge gained in the manner of sharing, it becomes easier to find one's niche, and constructing a smoother path via that niche to the ultimate goal. This ultimate goal, then, defines the individual success. It is easy to reprimand people running after money by saying "that is not success", but the truth is, it might be the primary definition for success for some people. Other people may define success as being a learned person, being high up the corporate ladder, being conventionally sound, being a proud parent, travelling the world, so on and so forth. All of these are fine definitions of success as long as they do not hurt anyone or anything. Carving a niche for yourself is as much as getting your own things on track as acknowledging and appreciating another person's track.

The importance of respect, understanding, love, and honesty, in the end, cannot be undermined no matter what your definition of success turns out to be.

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