First Step: Road to Gratefulness
Trust me. I've been there just like you and still have my fair share with the struggle. The first thing we need to do when we come across our emotions is we must first stop, notice, and say ourselves,
"I am human, these thoughts are just thoughts. They will not get the best of me"
We tend to blame ourselves, feeling like it's abnormal or wrong to have these thoughts and feelings. Once we just accept them for what they are and create a true affirmation that they will not harm us, we're good! If we can do that first part then that definitely leaves more open space for the next steps.
Second Step: Road to Gratefulness
The next thing we need to do is shift our thinking. How? You say? By simply rationalizing.
You see, our brain processes all this information and presents it to us. Think of it as a film playing on a projector. It is in our control on how we should react. For example, Ronny had the most awkward conversation with Sally. After the conversation, Sally advised that there is no chemistry and wishes him well. Ronny processes that and felt like he wasn't good enough to hold a conversation, wasn't intellectual enough, just wasn't good enough period.
Had Ronny shifted his focus by telling himself, he was good enough, this wasn't the right timing, she wasn't the right one but the right one would come, etc. he would have been fine.
But how can shifting focus even occur? It's hard enough when we're already hurt, sad, or angry. How can we even change our thinking?
If it comes to that point where you are unable to rationalize your thinking, the best thing to do is to stay present and breathe slowly. Keep your eyes open if you have to stay present. Focus on a lamp, or chair, the birds in the sky; whatever you have to do to get your mind to quiet down.
It will not be easy. But doing this will help you gain momentum and peace. So push through.
The Ultimate Final Step: Road to Gratefulness
When you begin to train your brain to think a certain way, we begin to notice things that actually matter. Things that feeds our soul, things that mentally fulfill us. We begin to realize how grateful we are.
All our life we've created a routine of telling ourselves garbage. Imagine being able to tell yourself good things over and over and over again. Literally.
Tell yourself something you're grateful about. If you're tired of saying it out loud, record it and leave on repeat.
Conclusion
So we talked about noticing our thoughts and accepting them for what they are. We touched on how important it is to talk to ourselves by telling ourselves good thoughts. We mentioned to shift our thinking by rationalizing and if we get to that point where it is too late, breathe to quiet the thoughts. We learned to stay present by focusing on whats in front of us. Lastly we create a routine to tell ourselves repeatedly what we are grateful about. This method will lead you to the road to Gratefulness. If we are grateful we can do everything else.
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